Maturity

The secret of genius is to carry the spirit of childhood into maturity --Thomas Henry Huxley

Ada juga jenis-jenis manusia yang suka timbulkan maturity issue to the point of annoyance. Orang-orang macam ni yang selalunya yang immature. I don't know if they have identity crisis or something, but these people, in trying and wanting so much to appear matured, dia jadi macam outstandingly childish sampai naik menyampah tengok.

Don't be surprised, though, if you notice, orang macam nilah yang selalu point at orang lain as "tak matured" or "macam budak-budak". As for me, personally I tak pernah peduli pun kalau orang nak kata I macam ni. Hey, in every man there lurks a child, ain't it? If you cannot accept that, then truly, you are not matured. For these reasons lah, until now, at this age, I memang suka main playstation, or watch Cartoon Network, or buy soft toys, or play kite ~ the list is endless. So what?

Maturity begins when we're content to feel we're right about something without feeling the necessity to prove someone else wrong. -- Sydney J. Harris

This is another thing. Kalau ada crisis ke, atau problem ke, maturity calls a person to deal with it in the most sensible way and tackle the issues steadily. Meaning, takde lah nak heret mak bapak sekali ke, siblings ke, or panggil gang ke.. kan? Or buat roadshow sana sini, announce to the whole world. Ataupun buat ungkit-mengungkit session. I mean, if you are confident enough that you are blameless and innocent, then diam-diam sudahlah. No need to go out of the way pulak nak tunjuk diri sendiri betul and others are wrong. Amazingly, many people tend to have lots of energies kalau nak buat benda-benda macam ni. *sighs*

Relationships are the hallmark of the mature person. -- Brian Tracy

Ni yang paling best dalam dunia.. eheh nak cakap banyak-banyak pun malas, takut ada yang terasa kan. Anyways, kalau nak tau orang tu mature ke tak, one way is to look at him or her in handling a relationship. Like I said, ni yang paling seronok tengok, sey. In small quantities, immaturity boleh jadi cute, amusing and sweet. Excessively, it could be a tragedy and may lead a husband to betray his wife, a boyfriend five-timing his girlfriend and vice versa.

Having an elderly boyfriend teaches me so many things where maturity is concerned. Yeah, mine is the kind of man who could easily reduce me to tears with his sharp glance, or silence me with merely a word ~ a prerogative that nobody else enjoys where I am concerned but please don't tell him this, ever! Yeah, with him, tak usahlah nak buat stunt yang bukan-bukan, i.e. kalau u had a small fight while travelling in a car, janganlah nak suruh dia turunkan tepi jalan ke apa ke. Or swear using foul words, or raise your voice. Yeah, jangan cari nahas.

Trust is also another element of maturity. I, for one, do not think that constantly browsing through the mobile phone of your spouse is a healthy thing to do. Or calling your spouse every hour just to check. Or constantly texting your spouse informing about your location. Man, I don't have the energy to do that. Takde kerja nak check ni.. tapi kalau terjumpa sendiri tu lain cerita lah kan.

Bercakap pasal trust in relationship ni, sepatah kata kawan I, Yan, "Bini ke gf ke,kalau jenis kaki control dan kuat cemburu memang hari-hari kena tipu punyalah". Sebabnya, merimaskanlah orang jenis macam ni. Tapi, terlampau percaya pun tak boleh juga.. berdondang sayanglah kawan, ye tak. Jadi kenalah pandai-pandai find the right balance. That's what maturity is all about...

Tapi kalau dah melampau sangat immature, memanglah tak kuasa nak layan lagi dah. Be it in a friendship or in a relationship. Normally in this case, I would decide that we've come to the end of the line lah.. ewah macam lagu plak la kan. Tak kuasa nak layan lagi.. PENAT!

Note : The photos are quoted from various sites namely reggie.net, lotuspix.com, edupic.net and trendysavers.com. The credits, therefore, belong to the original photographers.