When The Husband Is Silent

A good friend of mine mengadu hal yang her hubby's not like before. For the record they were married last year and she gave birth to their first baby on February. And according to her, her husband "sudah tidak banyak bercakap tetapi dengan baby okay pula, boleh bermesra".

Earlier she complained that her husband 'never called her at home to ask about her and the baby.' She is still in confinement and would be back to work in another week or so. And she also said bila weekend sahaja he would go play 'golf, golf and golf. Sudahlah weekdays pun main golf'.

I don't know but to me it does not really sound like a big problem.

I told my friend, husband dia tu responsible for the whole family business. Jadi, banyaklah perkara dalam fikirannya, banyaklah pula agaknya things to be settled. Kalau dia bermain-main dengan baby tu, itu biasalah.. surely dia ingat his wife is more understanding, faham yang dia penat, busy and all. Baby kecil lagi, so kenalah berikan perhatian yang lebih.

About not making conversation, I suggested to her that if the husband diam, why not you start.. kalau memang nampak dia nak rest dan tak mahu bercakap banyak then biarkanlah. Maybe he needs some time alone. Kalau dia tak call rumah tanya tentang baby, I katakan yang dia kenalah berikan husband nya time.. bukan semua new dad tahu apa yang perlu dilakukan... especially young fathers.. mungkin ada husbands yang pandai, tetapi tidak semua sama.. mungkin as a father dia ada keistimewaan lain.. we'll never know.

Golf.. well.. kalau itu minatnya tak apalah... I told her kalau you dah sayangkan dia, accept saja yang itu hobby dia.. as long as dia betul-betul di golf course tak apa. And kalau tidak.. well..kayu golf pun boleh makan tuan what hehehehe...

Also, I told her, mungkin you dalam pantang ni tak keluar ke mana-mana itu yang sensitive sikit. Esok dah kerja semula mesti okay.

What if it's my own husband?

As I was talking to my sister, we talked about the possibilities kalau-kalau our husbands later jadi begitu. (my sister pun kenal baik dengan this friend of mine so she knows).

I told my sis, kena tengok dulu macamana.. sebab entah-entah kalau dia balik rumah bukan dia sahaja yang tak mahu cakap banyak, maybe I pun, especially kalau tengah bad mood pasal office ke. And it's a good thing kalau ada baby.. adalah juga tempat dia nak berbual hehehehe. Sebab I ni jenis yang kalau tengah bad mood memang tak suka bercakap langsung.

Also, to me, you nak cakap, cakap. Tak mahu it's okay. You wanna call me at home to ask about me and the baby, I appreciate it. That's really sweet. Kalau tidak, I am not about to remind you all the time. Yalah, kalau nak bercakap dengan kita atau suruh call kita pun sampai nak kena suruh, to me that is not natural lagi dah. Tak adalah sweet nya lagi. But this is just me. Tapi I takkan melawan or tunjuk perasaan. I am fine. Insya Allah.

It's really because of the kind of person that I am agaknya. I am a natural loner. By choice. So, silence, or lack of company or attention is always fine. Tak ada hal punya hehehe. I am always occupied hahahaha. Adalah juga risiko my husband would feel 'diabaikan' in the sense that he would not be really missed kalau outstation ke apa...hehehe.. nasiblah... especially kalau time F1 season..

But if he's tired, needs some time alone ke.. pening ke.. no problem.. I would biarkan aje dia.. if you need my company, just say so.. nanti esok-esok dia okay lah tu... kalau tak okay juga pandai-pandai kaulah bagi okay hehehe.. yang pentingnya kita kena tahu when to stay close or when to give him some space...

I nak jalan you tak ada masa nak bawa I, husband? I pergi sendiri, I am not about to wait for you at home sulking. That is so not me. Cuma, kalau tiada masa nak bawa, just give the consent. That's all. Kot tak kang jadi derhaka lak aku kan.

Hobbies? You have all the freedom, husband, as long as you are truthful and sincere.

Wanna cheat on me? You can try, but please, for the love of God, do not let me find out or see anything....cover your tracks really well. Be smart.

Last but not least.. my policy in the event of infidelity : Let the one who is unfaithful be the one who cries blood.

Happily, Then Unhappily Married

I am inspired to write this because of two things. Number One, the entry written by my Charming Sister in her private buletin, and Number Two, in view of the unhappily married friends of mine.

Yes, what my sister wrote is very,very, true. And I am going to reestablish it here, to share with all of you. I am going to use my own sentence, for reasons known only to myself and herself *grin*.

These unhappily married people, time orang lain sibuk-sibuk nak kahwin, dia pun SIBUK juga nak kahwin. Tengok orang go shopping for hantaran diaorang ni pun cannot wait to follow suit. Ada pula tu yang sanggup paksa a guy belikan hantaran dan paksa bertunang (My God). Dan selepas kahwin, orang sibuk-sibuk nak minta dilepaskan, nak bebas semula, dia pun sibuk consider benda yang sama.

And now, you people come to me to complain about the very things that I warned you about? What, you want me to say I told you so? You want me to laugh at you? I am sorry, you want me to think of a solution?

I really do not know what to say. Because the way I see it, you people are scr*w*d up BIG TIME punya.

Forgive me, but these people, kenal mengenal in 1, 2 or 3 months, terus grab the man and ajak bertunang. Then 4-6 months later, berkahwin. And about a year later, mula berduka lara. Of course, these people are not the survivors type yang boleh tahan apa situation pun, yang boleh buat tak tau aje to their surrounding. These people are the people yang menjadi society's favourite ladies kononnya. I do not want to go into details.. enough if I say these are the type yang ala-ala 'control ayu' and lembut gigi dari lidah. Jenis perempuan yang her 'Yes' means 'No' and her 'No' means 'Yes'. In short, the type that I classify as 'Highly Membosankan'. Atau dalam bahasa halusnya "Obedient, But Not Very Bright".

Oh, as a recap, dulu sebelum diaorang ni kahwin, when told to fikir habis-habis dan bila kita point out the drawbacks, the popular reply would be.. "Kalau macam itu sampai bila pun tak kahwin". Yes, come to think of it, sepatutnya time tu I tanya dia kan, "You nak kahwin sampai bila, actually?" Another popular reply is "Ala, lepas kahwin nanti pandai-pandai la. Mana ada orang kahwin tak ada masalah".

And now, bravo! Pandai-pandai lah ya... kot-kotlah nak kahwin 'sampai setakat ini' sahaja.

~ Weekend In New England ~

Last night, I waved goodbye, now it seems years

I'm back in the city, where nothin' is clear

But thoughts of me, holdin' you, bringin' us near

And tell me, when will our eyes meet?

When can I touch you?

When will this strong yearnin' end?

And when will I hold you again?

Time in New England, took me away

Long rocky beaches and you by the bay

We started a story whose end must now wait

And tell me, when will our eyes meet?

When can I touch you?

When will this strong yearnin' end?

And when will I hold you again?

I feel the change comin', I feel the wind blow

I feel brave and daring! I feel my blood flow, oh

With you I could bring out all the love that I have

With you there's a heaven, so earth ain't so bad

And tell me, when will our eyes meet?

When can I touch you?

When will this strong yearnin' end?

And when will I hold you again? Again

In Love

I am SO IN LOVE with Horizon Hills.. but then again who wouldn't?

I can see that Horizon Hills is my project number two; after Edin, of course. Seriously, no joke.

if you wanna know about Horizon Hills, you can find about it here at http://www.horizonhills.com.my

I'm gonna say it again.. I LOVE HORIZON HILLS!

Salem High Country

Ada sesiapa yang ingat iklan Salem High Country? I pun tak berapa sure, it was in 1990 or 1991. Yang i ingat, i dalam form 3 maybe or form 4. Sambil buat homework, sambil mengadap TV. Memang time tu suka la nengok sebab background dia cun habis.. fresh gitu hehehehe.. model dia pun ensem dan lawa.. kira sedap mata memandang lah kan... I can still remember the malay version of the song in that ad..

Di kemuncaknya.. kita lepas bebas ria
Mengecapi.. kebebasan..
Indah suasana.. segar nyaman terasa
Inilah dunianya.. gaya hidup milik kita
Di kemuncaknya...

Dan ingat tak dulu ada siri komedi Jangan Ketawa? Yang berlakon semuanya lelaki.. so kalau ada watak perempuan, diaorang tu juga yang akan jadi perempuan. Siri Jangan Ketawa ni banyak kali juga mengajuk iklan-iklan di televisyen. Antaranya ialah iklan Salem High Country tu lah. Hehehe sebiji you, ditirunya.. background semua sama.. but the iklan is for promoting Sari yang wanita India pakai tu.. hence the brand name is Salin. At the end of the ad, ada tulis Salin - Nikmatilah Kesegaran Sari Asli hehehe.

And these are for you guys.. the photos from that Jangan Ketawa imitation on Salem High Country.

PTD Exam - The Results

I pass exam ptd haritu. Alhamdulillah. While I am so thankful.. (and I should be), I am so, so, so, sad... because.. nampak gayanya tak menemu la aku nak sit for that exam again, solely for the purpose of meeting Abang Biru. Kot tak, adalah sebab nak sit for that exam again. Chewah macam dah sure bebenar Abang Biru yang jaga exam lagi kehkehkeh..

Sebetulnya memang tak expect pass pun.. like i said.. my math paper.. hancur lebur (dalam perkiraan aku sendiri ler). Apa tidaknya..ni cakap masjid ni.. terus terang je la.. first five or six questions tu yalah aku buat dan fikir.. the rest.. sebab aku tengok jam dan congak-congak memang tak sempat, aku pun tandakan je kertas OMR tu sesuka hati..tak tengok soalan pun... ehehehe.. memanglah siap awal kan.. dan ada masa nak check.. tapi orang check whether jawapan di kertas sama dengan yang ditanda di kertas OMR, aku lak check aku dah hitamkan borang OMR dalam jumlah yang cukup (kalau 20 soalan, aku kira la aku dah hitamkan 20, tak lebih tak kurang) hehehehehe.

punah ranah gamaknya impian aku nak jumpa abang biru lagi keskeskes.

tapikan, ni teori aku sendiri la eh, teori menyedapkan hati.. manalah tau kan, kalau-kalau SPA guna sistem crew members.. means siapa yang in charge jaga exam batch 03/02/2007 aritu, dia pun akan bertugas untuk stage yang seterusnya for that batch.. hehehehe imaginasi lebih-lebihan lagi.. macamlah yang amik exam tu 10-15 orang je dalam Malaysia ni.

eleh cakap banyak konon.. yang benarnya aku memang tak tau lagi nak gi ke tidak next assessment stage, known as PAC di INTAN. Duration dia 3 hari 2 malam.. tahan ke aku ni... bab lari 2.5 km tu aku tak kisah sangat.. public speaking pun okay lagi.. ni bab kerja berkumpulan ni sangatlah malunya bertapuk-tapuk..saya ni kan gadis pemalu wakakakakakaka..

tapi, actually i do not like to join activity lama-lama gitu.. 3 days 2 nights hey.. kalau weekend getaway tak apa la juga kan.. tambah-tambah lagi di Uni dulu akulah antara juara yang licin sekali escape kursus-kursus bina semangat ... hehehe.. biarlah Finance Seminar ke, Corporate Governance Seminar sehari suntuk ke lapan hari suntuk ke aku tahan la.. bab kena ada group, kena take orders heheheh sooooOOOOooo not my thing!

erm.. tapi kalau kena geng best, ok juga kan.. tak taulah.. biarlah dulu.. official letter pun tak tiba lagi.. tadi check kat website SPA je...

Apapun salam sejahtera untuk abang biru, dengan ucapan aku dah ada IC baru! See you around!

Well Done, Kimi!

The Post Race Interview at the Australian GP earlier today
(photo from F1-Live.com)

Ferrari's off to a good start for the 2007 Formula 1 Grand Prix.

The Australian F1 GP witnessed Kimi Raikkonen (Ferrari) won the first grand prix of the 2007 season. Fernando Alonso and Lewis Hamilton of McLaren-Mercedes both finished second and third respectively. Kimi's team-mate Felipe Massa finished 5th while Nick Heidfeld from BMW finished fourth.

Well Done, Kimi and Felipe. Keep it up! Best Wishes to Ferrari!

And a Big Hi to our former Ferrari Hero, Michael Schumacher!

Saturday March 17, 2007 Qualifying Session

1. Kimi Raikkonen (Ferrari)

2. Fernando Alonso (McLaren-Mercedes)

3. Nick Heidfeld (BMW)

Sunday March 18 2007, Australian Formula One Grand Prix 2007

1. Kimi Raikkonen (Ferrari)

2. Fernando Alonso (McLaren-Mercedes)

3. Lewis Hamilton (McLaren-Mercedes)

Sour Grapes

He has been bothering me for almost 6 months now.. it didn't take much to realise what he's after... but hey, totally wrong person, alright... Yeah he called me almost everyday at DAWN.. and tried to ask me out soo many times too.. and has been turned down EVERY TIME... either I said I was busy or, out of spite, I fixed the time and meeting place and didn't show up, so many times...and I guess he thought I was playing hard to get (ha-ha-ha).. Oh man, my no means no and my yes means yes... siapa suruh tak faham bahasa.

The thing I hate most about him is the fact that he is so irritating and sickening and desperate. Imagine, everytime he called me, he either said "can i spend the night/weekend with u" or, if i said i am at home, "do you want me to come over?" Hello, Pakcik, come on la.. my home would be the LAST place on earth I would use as a meeting place, ESPECIALLY to meet someone like you!

Oh, sorry.. a few details.. Aged 44, Malay, Never Married (huhuhuhu why am i not surprised?) ex-army turned businessman, jiwang-looking face, extreeeemely irritating voice, and taste tak usah cakaplah.. memang taste AHLI SENJA. Travels a lot, for business and pleasure (tapi yang paling aku tak tahan nak gelak was when he invited me to accompany him to Nepal, and to the Himalaya). No, nothing wrong with Nepal and Himalaya.. the only thing yang tak kena is dia, dia, dia dan dia!

And two nights ago, he sent a text message to me.. asking me "what do you really want?" And without further delay (hehe) I pun mem'fire' dia sesedap rasa. Ada ke, I yang tak ada 0.0001% pun interest pada dia, dia boleh tanya I that question.

Kira berapi jugalah dia that night.. among the things I said to him was "I thought I should be the one who is asking that question to you, since I am very certain that I was not the one who BOTHERED your life for the past 6 months". And then he replied " I'll be very honest, I am into s*xual relationship". Lagi, I said, "How long do you take to realise that I am not interested to have any relationship with you? I believe I have made myself clear a long time ago. I hope you are not mad at me".

Pakcik tua ni jawab dengan berlagaknya konon nak bagi I panas hati.. " Nah, I'm not mad.. you're what? Just another p*ssy to me". And I said "Hehehe yes, one that you did not manage to get. Out of curiosity, why have you never been married? Any physical defects? And please do not be shy to tell" . Dia kata " Hey I don't even care if yours is covered with diamonds". I replied " Ah but you do care, otherwise you would not bother to mention the diamonds hehehehe..don't be like sour grapes... so why have you never been married?"

Sampai sini dah boleh tau la dia memang hangin dengan soalan tu. Dia kata "No reason. Just wanna add you to my collection of f*c*s." I know he wanted to make me mad . Sorry pakcik, silap besar. I said "Oh, then sorry if I disappoint you. Seriously, what kind of defects? " .It went on and on... hehehe lama-lama dia dah tak ada modal dia tuduh I ni someone's kept woman hehehe..God knows on what basis.. nak tergelak dibuatnya.. kept woman.. I am really flattered..hehehhe.. And I told him.. "Indeed, if I want to be a kept woman, definitely not YOUR kept woman lah kan"
Konon nak tunjuk smart and flippant, dia jawab "Yes, don't waste my time and money". Laju je aku jawab " Even if I wanted to, I knew you couldn't afford it" (Hohoho Mamee Slurpp Kari BERAPI).

Lepas tu dia diam je.. surely dia tengah berapi.. be rest assured tak lama lagi dia mesti call punya. Tapi lepas ni malas nak layan...

best juga bakar pakcik tua ni.. kita relax je sambil berdekah-dekah.. syok tengok dia hangin hehehe.. nama aje age 44, tapi lemau. wherever lah he got the idea yang I ni jenis orang begitu... I am VERY flattered!

Another One..

Further to my previous post... this is ANOTHER nuisance in my dieting plan.. this time they're from my Dad's birthday bash earlier this evening (March 15, 2007)

A Chocolate Cake that was so Evil-ly delicious....

A very seductive Ayam Golek by my SIL..

Seriously, people.. what did I do to deserve all these? Hmmm.. makes me wonder.. it must be the fact that my looking good was indeed offensive to some, yes...

But, like I said before..this is indeed an exception.. Well.. it's really harmless to have a sip or two of soft drinks...and because... uh.. well this is my doing... tehahahaha....

RUINED

Remember when I said last time, about how I wanted to watch my figure, my diet, lose weight, exercise and everything?

Well, I am PROUD to announce here that it is EFFECTIVELY RUINED. It started when I had some serious cough and sore throat, followed by bouts of flu. I HAD to eat, you see coz I have to take my medicines. It went so well in the beginning, I lost 5 kilos! Huwaaaaaa!

Thanks to all the birthdays (another one coming later today, March 15).

People just do not want me to get my old slim figure!

~ Thank You, Thank You Very Much ~

WITH THE EXCEPTION OF THIS ONE, OF COURSE... I made this hehehehe...

Lil' Nissy

I am getting even more attached to this Jedi Youngling as the day passes by. And the feeling is definitely mutual.

Because I am the Jedi Aunt, I teach her jedily things.. the other day I took her to the balcony at the second floor.. and teach her so many things.. there's a bird flying.. trees... and, being a Jedi Niece, she's so curious to try many things, including trying to step on to the roof of the lower parts of the house. (of course, she's well-guarded all the time, she just dived her body to the front to indicate her curiosity). And I told her, no. You cannot do that.

She is now a copycat. She can dance, sing, she reads her book with a deep interest, she always want things her own way, she is the no-nonsense type. Guess WHO is she copying? ha-ha. And you know what song I play when I teach her to dance? It's Jive Bunny hehehehe.. And now she's even more attached to the cartoon channels.

She has three new teeth. When she grins, she looks like 'budak nakal' as we all like to call her..

An Analysis

Him - weak-minded, unsuspecting, unfaithful, slow, need to be reminded about something all the time, cannot see things in the truest sense.

Her - weak-minded, pushy, persistent, nagging, annoying, VERY STUPID, brainless, crazy, fake.

Myself - impatient, independent, keep to myself, play fair, fast, faithful, self-motivated, able to see things very clearly.

It is very obvious that He is better off with Her. I do not fit into the scene at all. Impatience is my MAJOR thing. I mean, I do not have the time or the energy to nag and push people about something on a daily basis, I get bored easily. Face it, both of them are older than I am, yet I can squash them only with words is seconds. Really I have no patience for something so slow. It takes an unusually stunning person to make me stay.

Well, she can nag him, push him, stalk him everyday, since that is her speciality, her major. And Him, being so slow and lame, really suits her. Perfecto. She just love to do that. Me, I'd die of boredom and frustration.

And yes, I do not have the slightest hesitation to label her VERY STUPID. She told everyone I bribed Him, I paid Him to hate her. Please, Lord, how much effort does it take to make her see, that by simply looking at her face the hatred comes naturally for everyone, not just me or Him? ( we do not touch the topic of education and qualification here, just plain logic).

Really, I have no patience for all these things.

6 Reasons Why I Blog

I have been tagged by my Charming Sister and Friend... I am happy to see her Charming, Naughty and Cheerful as always..Alhamdulillah...she is my epitome of strength!

And these are the six reasons as to why I blog:~

1) It is a form of dedication from me to someone.

2) It is my way to keep a record of some, if not all, of my memories, the things I do, did, and will do.

3) It is an expression of myself.. you see, by nature I don't talk much except to those who are really close to me.. so definitely akan adalah yang akan tersalah faham with me.. especially with my friends.. I hope this way, I can clarify whatever misunderstanding there is...

4) I want to share some of the things that I know with my friends.. and would-be friends.. may what I have written be useful to someone, somewhere, sometimes..

5) I simply love to read and write.

6) I can communicate secretly with my favourite friends regarding things that cannot be said in real life as there are too much risks. Those who know, knows *wink*.

And I tag everyone, who is a blogger, who has read this.You may wanna sit down and think about the reasons why you blog.. something you may not have the time to think of before *wink*

A Hello Note From Scot!

I received this postcard from my lovely friend in Glasgow earlier today, with regards to her recent trip to Edin.. and yes this card really menyala-nyalakan lagi my spirits.. hehehehe..

Mimi Dearest, thank you so much for this lovely card.. it is GREAT... really great... I LOVE IT...tq mimi ami-lovely-ia... :) or shall I say mimi ami-lien? hehee..

Best Wishes on your studies and every single thing you do, magical lady!

Another You

I know not why I've been thinking about this man for the past two days... But one thing for sure, he is the most romantic person I've dated... well.. not romantic with words la.. the way he talk is like.. well.. sama macam orang macho lain in the oil and gas sector.. brief, cool words..very manly.. but.. there was this one time he called me.. at that time I was in KL.. and suddenly he asked me.. "dengar tak bunyi apa".. " I said, "dengar, bunyi air laut".. yes, it was the sound of air laut softly menghempas pantai.. and i thought wow this guy is so romantic.. and he didn't even know I ni the type yang memang suka pantai, laut and the likes.. and then I said.. "waaa you are so sweet laa.. you call I dari tepi pantai... " .. he didn't say anything, but I KNOW he was smiling and quite pleased....

But.. as handsome man goes.. dia ni memanglah tersangat tinggi tahap egonya..somewhere along the line I did hurt him deeply.. actually partly it's his mistake...I cakap lain dia faham lain.. and as a result... hahaha.. sampai sekarang both of us are not really on speaking terms.. and he did everything he could to hurt me... DELIBERATELY AND OBVIOUSLY, alright... bersungguh-sungguh.. making it even more apparent to me that despite ke'macho' an dan cool dia tu.. he is EXTREMELY sensitive.. I mean why else would he continue to hurt me if my cut was not the deepest?

Tapi I buat tak tau aje, and of course.. I pretend I didn't notice pun what he did.. once in a while he will call me.. buat-buat tanya tentang orang lain.. I KNOW he missed me.. even before he went for his assignment to Korea pun he called me to let me know... but as always.. the best cure is.. buat tak reti je.. padan lah dengan muka dia kan...

I know the feeling is there... if not as strong as before... but hello there mister.. if you are too proud to admit it.. what makes you think I am going to 'mencemar duli' and do it for you? (pinjam bahasa istana sebentar)

Anyway, I know you are not reading this, so I dare to say I haven't found another you until now.. you are the only person who called me from a lovely beach on that one romantic evening...

And I know why you took all the trouble to be nice to that two ladies.. you wanna make me feel left out and maybe jealous.. but my dear, I don't feel that.. I am only amused...because you are indeed torturing yourself further.... *garfield grin* PADAN MUKA YOU!

The Ground Is Shaking...

I was lying beside Anis at 12 something today... she was napping before waiting for lunchtime..

Then I felt something.. I felt my whole body was rocking gently to the left and right.. I was awake, alright.. I didn't doze off.. and my feet was NOT moving... so how on earth did I feel that?

Then about half an hour later her Ma (Yati) came back from office and told me the news.. that everybody in the Public Bank Tower, and literally from most of the high-rise building in the city had vacated the building... apparently they too felt the same thing... that the ground was shaking...

there's an earthquake at 6 Richter scale somewhere in Indonesia according to Yati..

I haven't watched the news yet... so I do not have the full facts..

But... to everyone please be alert and extra careful, especially those in JB City...

-Live Update From Spectacularwave-

If You Love Someone...

Ladies, ladies.. here's a question..if you love someone truly.. well if you claim you love someone truly, suppose he betrays you, would you do something to embarass him?

I am asking this because on two different occassions, both women claimed to love their men truly but well.. they acted quite the contrary.

Situation One, my friend, whose fiancee has some sort relationship with his own staff... she made one surprise visit to his office and ended up feeling deeply hurt and embarassed (of course I have warned her not to do but she did it anyway).

Situation Two, another lady, whose husband was having an affair (had been having an affair for a long time, and this was his second affair).. she called his office and spoke to the HR, intending to bad mouth and made her husband look bad to the HR.. but didn't quite make it.. as the HR told her that they have no right to interfere in a staff's personal matters. (if i were to be the wife, tak tau mana aku nak letak muka)

Interestingly, both women ni dok menangis la sampai berjuraian air mata.. sayang abang, sayang abang and all.. my question is.. kalau you sayang kenapa you buat begituuuu? WHY?

Of course we all know they have been treated unfairly.. but that's not an excuse to act in such a way... and.. to their detriment!

First and foremost, you are only embarassing yourself..second, rather than getting back your men (which was what both of them wanted apparently), you are only creating a bigger gap between you and him and... you are giving him another reason to hate you... and not to respect you..

Memang ramai yang kata.. "habis dia buat I macam tu.. nak biarkan? " I always say to these people.. yes, dia memang buat hal.. but do you have to be stupid too? and these women would say.. "I geram, I geram.. I buat macam itu baru puas hati I"

Ya, memang puas hati.. but after that, you sakit hati lebih teruk kan? Okay.. katakan you berjaya catch him red-handed... memang puas hati.. but at the same time sakit hati, kan?

Ladies.. should you be facing this situation.. first of all.. calm down, distract yourself if calming down is too hard to be done... whatever it is.. please do not do damaging things.. remember.. if a man does not love you, or have a change of heart or buang tabiat (in the case of old, married man) - at least he should respect you lah kan.. meaning to say.. janganlah buat benda-benda yang akan membuatkan dia memandang rendah pada you...

As for myself.. if ever my husband is seeing someone else.. or is having an affair.. or even my boyfriend pun.. kalau buat perangai.. I am not going to attack him or humiliate him.... bukan apa..not worth it, really.. what if it's nothing.. that he's just flirting.. lepas tu you pula sudah mengamuk macam raksaksa.. elok-elok dia sayang, dia terus menyampah.. kan rugi?

Kalau I, I would secretly find out, act normal... and once I have all the evidence (undoubted evidence) I would ask him.. coolly that is.. see what he has to say... and.. if he lies.. if he doesn't want to come clean.. then.. depending on my assessment of the situation lah... kalau hati ni sakit sangat.. or if it's unforgivable.. hehehe then selamat tinggal lah kau... I would leave quietly..yes.. leaving quietly and gracefully.. yeah so he betrayed me.. but I don't have to go crazy, do I?

after that, tak kisahlah whether dia suka ke tak suka ke I dah tak ada.. it's immaterial.. yang penting I dah tak payah tengok muka dia yang menyakitkan hati itu lagi hahahaha.. and no, tak ada masa nak mengamuk or bersilat or serang-menyerang.. hehehe.. apa class lah kan.... nak berebut orang yang seperti itu.. huhuhuhuhu... bumi Allah ni luas.. umat Muhammad (pbuh) pun ramai hehehe... *grin*

itu kalau I dah tak berniat nak continue the relationship or marriage lah kan...

kalau I still want to continue.. well... to be continued in next post... heheheh...

6 Perkara Pelik Tentang Spectacularwave

I've been tagged by Mimi... arikikikiki.. I am so happy now that she is back 'on air' and healthy.. Alhamdulillah.. (Mimi demam baru-baru ini..)

hence, here are the 6 weird things about myself:

1) Sudah banyak kali menziarahi kematian saudara-mara dan keluarga terdekat, namun tidak sekali mengalirkan air mata. Break-up dengan boyfriend pun jauh sekali nak menangis. Tetapi, apabila anak kucing kesayangan saya, the late Berry, dilanggar oleh adik saya telah meraung-raung sekuat-kuat hati dan bersedih berhari-hari. Begitu juga ketika anak kucing saya Blossom hilang secara tiba-tiba tanpa kesan. Berjurai-jurai air mata.

2) Apabila saya tidur nyenyak, mainlah pancaragam pun saya tidak akan terjaga. Tetapi apabila bunyi telefon bimbit menandakan ada pesanan ringkas masuk, saya akan terjaga dengan sendirinya.

3) Saya takut dengan injection dan ambil darah.

4) Saya lebih menyenangi orang yang terang-terangan tidak sukakan saya daripada orang yang berpura-pura menyenangi saya.

5) Saya tidak akan minum air selasih (telur katak) atau cendol (earthworm) tetapi saya minum air cincau (walaupun ianya kelihatan seperti lintah).

6) Kadangkala saya mendengar dan melihat benda yang orang lain tidak dengar dan lihat atau tidak perasan. Kadangkala juga bila sesuatu berlaku, saya seperti sudah tahu ia akan berlaku sedangkan bila atau bagaimana saya tahu saya tidak dapat pastikan. Semua ini bukan khayalan saya. Kadangkala saya tidak menyenangi perkara ini.

Okay.. saya nak tag siapa, ya?
Here you go..

1) Kaksu
2) Eita
3) Kak Nina Suria
4) Kak Pink Jambu
5) BTB
6) Syari

The Rules:
Each player of this game starts out by giving 6 weird things about themselves. People who get tagged need to write in a blog of their own 6 weird things as well as state the rules clearly. In the end, you need to choose 6 people to be tagged and list their names. After you do that, leave them each a comment letting them know you tagged them and to read your blog!

Missing Him

Suddenly I miss him. After a long, long time, since I can't remember when.
But what the h*ll. There's nothing I can do about it..
except...perhaps.. this..

there..that's better i guess..never a big deal hehe...
voila.. have a nice weekend... *wink*

Courage

Courage is not the absence of fear. Rather, it is the judgment that something else is more important than fear.

The brave may not live forever. But the cautious never live at all.